Codependency Quiz

What it measures

The quiz looks at four facets, and your result names the pattern they add up to. Keeping them apart matters here, because never saying no and having little left outside the relationship are very different problems.

Boundary Setting

Whether you can say no and mean it. The questions ask what actually happens when a partner asks for something reasonable that does not work for you, and whether you have gone through with things you did not want because refusing felt impossible.

Self-Worth Independence

Whether your worth stands on its own or rests on being needed. The questions ask how much being depended on feeds your sense of value, and how you would feel if your partner got healthier and needed you less.

Identity Outside the Relationship

Whether there is still a you separate from the relationship. The questions ask what has happened to your own interests, friendships, and opinions since it started, and how much of your daily life would still be standing if it ended tomorrow.

Caretaking Compulsion

Whether someone else's problems become yours by default, even ones they never asked you to solve. This facet asks what you have done rather than how much you care, including whether it has cost you your own health, finances, or wellbeing.

Who it is for

This is for you if you have caught yourself agreeing to things you did not want, found it hard to describe yourself without mentioning your relationship, or had the word codependent used about you and would rather have specifics than a label. It is not a read on your partner, and it will not tell you to stay or go. This quiz asks how much of you is left inside a relationship; the Jealousy Quiz asks what happens when you feel threatened in one. What comes back is a named pattern, in terms specific enough to do something with.

What your result looks like

Your result is one of five named patterns, each a description of how the four facets fell together rather than a grade.

Rooted

You hold onto yourself — your boundaries, your identity, your worth — while staying genuinely close to someone. Worth noticing that this is a skill, often built deliberately rather than luck, and one that still repays protecting.

Rooted, One Area to Watch

The four facets are mostly settled, with one out of step. Naming that one — boundaries, self-worth, identity, or caretaking — gives you something workable, which a general sense of losing yourself sometimes does not.

Balanced

A normal amount of give here, rather than something that has taken over. Some blending of identity and some caretaking are a normal part of a close relationship, and on this result you're likely not far from where most people land.

Blurred Edges

At least one real pattern is in play, even if nothing dramatic has happened — enough that the line between you and the relationship has gone soft. Origins are often traceable: a caretaking role learned early, or care that was once needed and never stopped.

Losing Yourself

Enough is in play here to be worth taking seriously. This very likely has an understandable origin, and it is workable — not a life sentence on who you are in relationships. Naming it, ideally with support, does more than willing it away.

How it works

8 questions, about two minutes. Nothing to sign up for and nothing to pay: answer them and your result appears when you finish. A free account shows the detailed breakdown behind it. A membership keeps your results so you can retake the quiz later and see what moved.

How it is used

This is a Self-Reflection quiz. It is answered by you, about you, and it is never sent to a partner. There is no sharing on a result — these are private by design.

What happens to your answers

If you take this quiz without an account, your answers reach our servers only so it can be scored, and are then discarded. Nothing is stored, no profile is created, and we do not try to work out who you are. Your browser keeps an encrypted copy of the result for the rest of your visit, so creating a free account shows you the breakdown without answering again. Close the tab and that copy is gone.

Questions people ask

Can this quiz tell me if I am codependent?

No. Codependency is not a diagnosis, and this quiz cannot label you. What it can do is give you a specific description of the pattern your answers point to, in terms you can work with: boundaries, self-worth, identity outside the relationship, and taking on someone else's problems.

Is this quiz about me or about my relationship?

About you. It looks at a pattern you carry — what happens when you say no, where your worth comes from, what is left of you outside the relationship, whose problems you take on by default — independent of any specific partner's behavior. It is not a read on how your relationship is going.

What if my answers point to real cost to my health or finances?

If your answers show a pattern of sacrificing your own health, finances, or wellbeing, that is worth taking seriously — not as a character flaw, but as a pattern worth addressing directly, ideally with a therapist's support. The SAMHSA National Helpline is 1-800-662-4357; the National DV Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org.

What if I think a partner is encouraging this pattern?

That is worth naming separately. Codependent patterns can coexist with a partner who relies on them, or encourages them rather than supporting you in changing them. This quiz only looks at your side, so it will not surface that — a therapist is a better place to take it.