Relationship Satisfaction Quiz

What it measures

Four dimensions, reported separately rather than blended into one satisfaction number — a relationship can be close but unreliable, or steady and going nowhere.

Emotional Connection

How close and understood you feel day to day. The questions are about an ordinary, non-special week rather than an occasion, and about where your instinct takes you after a genuinely hard day — toward your partner, or somewhere else.

Trust & Security

How safe this relationship feels to be honest in. It asks what you'd do with something you expect to be judged for, what your gut does when your partner is out, and how reliably they follow through on what they say they'll do.

Effort & Reciprocity

Whether effort feels mutual right now. Think of the last month rather than the relationship's whole history: how the load has actually fallen, and what tends to happen to the thoughtful things you do — noticed, or absorbed without comment.

Future Alignment

How aligned you feel on where this is headed. Picture your life five years out and see how clearly your partner is in it, then set that against how much you actually agree on family, home, and direction.

Who it is for

This suits the stretch where nothing is obviously wrong and "fine" has stopped being a useful answer — or the sense that one part has slipped without you being able to name which. It won't tell you whether to stay, and it isn't a screen for someone you've just started seeing. If what's bothering you is specifically trust — follow-through, honesty, whether you can be exposed safely — the Trust Quiz goes at that alone and in more depth; this one reads the whole relationship, with trust as one of four dimensions.

What your result looks like

Five possible results, each a headline about the overall shape, alongside a separate bar for each of the four dimensions.

Thriving Together

Connection and trust are both genuinely present, effort runs both ways, and the future feels shared. The advice attached is not to treat that as settled: this is a reading of a moment, and moments move.

Strong But One Gap

The foundation here is good — this is not a relationship in trouble — and one dimension is behind the rest. The risk named in this result is assuming the overall strength will cover for it; you probably already know which one it is.

Steady and Sufficient

A genuinely fine place to be, with no dimension in real trouble and none standing out either. The result asks one thing of you: what would improve whichever dimension came out lowest — even if it isn't low, just lowest.

Quietly Drifting

Nothing dramatic has happened, and one part of this has been sliding anyway. The name is the warning: this is the kind of gap that can run for months without being said out loud, and bigger problems often started here.

Running on Empty

The strain isn't confined to one place — either it shows across dimensions, or one has gone far enough to matter on its own. It's framed as something to name plainly — not as a verdict on the relationship itself.

How it compares

How it works

10 questions, about two minutes. Nothing to sign up for and nothing to pay: answer them and your result appears when you finish. A free account shows the detailed breakdown behind it. A membership keeps your results so you can retake the quiz later and see what moved.

Sending it to a partner

This is a Partner quiz, so it can go two ways. Answer it for yourself, free and without an account, and it stays yours alone. Or send it to your partner, which needs an active membership: they answer privately, and you see how far they have got, but their answers and results reach you only if they choose to share them back.

What happens to your answers

If you take this quiz without an account, your answers reach our servers only so it can be scored, and are then discarded. Nothing is stored, no profile is created, and we do not try to work out who you are. Your browser keeps an encrypted copy of the result for the rest of your visit, so creating a free account shows you the breakdown without answering again. Close the tab and that copy is gone.

Questions people ask

How is the Relationship Satisfaction Quiz different from the Trust Quiz?

This one reads the relationship as a whole — connection, trust and security, effort, and where you're both headed — with trust as one of four dimensions. The Trust Quiz spends its whole length there instead, splitting trust into reliability, honesty, how it holds during conflict, and whether being vulnerable is safe. Take this one if you're unsure what's off; that one if you already know it's trust.

How often should I retake the Relationship Satisfaction Quiz?

Every few months is the intent — it's built as a temperature check rather than a one-time verdict. A single reading tells you where things sit today. Retaking after a rough week will mostly measure the rough week.

What time frame should I have in mind when I answer?

Now, mostly. The questions are anchored to recent life — an ordinary week rather than an occasion, the last month rather than the relationship's whole history — before asking you to look five years ahead. Answering from how things were at their best, or from one bad stretch, is the surest way to get a reading you don't recognize.

Will the Relationship Satisfaction Quiz tell me whether to stay?

No. It describes how things read right now across the four dimensions; even the hardest of the five results is written as a description of a moment, not a judgment on whether the relationship should continue.

Guides on this

• How do you plan your first trip together?

  Planning a first trip as a couple: agreeing on the kind of trip, settling money early, leaving room in the days, and handling travel stress together.

• How do you split the holidays between two families?

  Ways to share the holidays between two families: the common arrangements, deciding between you first, telling families early, and traditions of your own.

• What should you talk about before moving in together?

  The conversations worth having before sharing a home: money, space, chores, what the move means, and what happens if it does not work.

• How do you combine two homes' worth of stuff when you move in together?

  The practical side of merging two households: whose place to live in, sorting doubles, keeping space of your own, and spreading the work over weeks.

• Should you move to be with your partner?

  What to weigh before relocating for a partner: who moves and why, what you would give up, whether you would stay if it ended, and how to plan the first months.

• How do you know if you're ready to get engaged?

  Being ready to get engaged is less about time together than about the big conversations, the hard stretches you have shared, and an honest answer to why now.

• How can you tell whether you're happy in your relationship?

  Telling happiness apart from comfort or habit: looking at a few specific areas, what ordinary days show, and why one reading is not a verdict.

• How do you each feel loved in a relationship?

  People feel loved in different ways, and couples often give love the way they would like to receive it. How to notice your own and your partner's.

• How do you run a weekly check-in as a couple?

  A short weekly talk at a set time: a simple four-part order, keeping complaints in check, saving big issues, and what to do if one of you balks.

• How do you plan a date night after years together?

  Date nights after years together: taking turns planning, guarding the date on the calendar, adding something new, and keeping the evening light.

• How do you talk about money as a couple?

  Money talks go better when they start with stories rather than spreadsheets. How to share the facts, choose a system together and keep checking in.

• How do you split household chores fairly?

  Splitting chores fairly: listing every job, noticing who minds what, trading by preference, agreeing on what done means, and resetting when life changes.

• How do you share the mental load of running a home?

  The mental load is the noticing, planning and remembering behind a home. How to make it visible, hand over whole areas, and plan together each week.

• How do you share cooking and meals as a couple?

  Sharing cooking as a couple: a short weekly plan, a shopping split, taking turns or cooking together, different diets, and meals without the critiques.

• How do you share a bed when your sleep schedules differ?

  Early bird and night owl, or shift work: overlapping on purpose, cutting noise and light, changing the bed, and sleeping apart without shame.

• Should you get a pet together?

  Before getting a pet together: who does the daily work, costs, housing rules, allergies, travel, how settled you are, and who keeps the pet if you part.

• How do you set boundaries with your partner's family?

  Setting limits with a partner's family: agreeing as a couple first, choosing what matters, asking kindly, and deciding what you will do if it is ignored.

• How do you stay close as a couple after having a baby?

  A new baby rearranges everything. How to share the work without keeping score, make small moments for each other, and let intimacy return at its own pace.

• How do you adjust as a couple when one of you retires?

  When one or both of you retire: picturing ordinary days, time together and apart, life after work, roles at home, money, and plans that do not match.

• Is it normal to have doubts about your relationship?

  Doubts are a normal part of being close to someone, and they come in kinds. How to tell a passing doubt from one that deserves a closer look.

• How do you disagree with your partner without it turning into a fight?

  Disagreeing well with a partner: starting gently, one issue at a time, good timing, taking breaks, listening back, and small repairs along the way.

• What do you do when you feel more like roommates than partners?

  Feeling like roommates often follows long stretches of logistics. How to notice what changed, rebuild small daily connection and raise it without blame.

• What do you do when you and your partner have different sex drives?

  Different levels of desire are common, and a gap is not a fault in either of you. How to talk about it calmly, ease the pressure and know when to get help.

• How do you support a partner through a hard time without losing yourself?

  Supporting a partner through grief, job loss, illness or a long low stretch: asking what helps, practical care, and keeping your own life going.

• When is couples counseling worth trying?

  Couples counseling is not only a last resort. When it can help, what a counselor does and does not do, going alone, and finding a good fit.

• How do you decide whether to stay in a relationship or leave?

  A structured way to think through staying or leaving: separating the question from the mood, what each path costs, and what to look at first.