Trust Quiz

What it measures

Trust can be entirely sound in one of these and shaky in another, which is why the quiz keeps them apart. "I don't fully trust you" collapses the difference into a sentence nobody can act on.

Reliability

Whether what they say and what happens line up. The ordinary, unglamorous kind: do plans hold, does a promise about something that matters carry weight on its own, or have you started building in a double-check without quite deciding to.

Honesty

Whether you believe you're getting the whole picture of their life, and what your partner does when they've done something wrong. Both what they tell you unprompted and what you've found out for yourself count here.

Trust Under Pressure

Plenty of trust holds fine on a calm evening. This asks what yours does mid-argument, and what your first instinct is when something goes wrong and it isn't clear whose fault it was — whether you wait to hear their side or arrive already decided.

Vulnerability Safety

Whether you can be exposed with them and not pay for it later. What you'd expect if you admitted a mistake you're not proud of, and whether anything told in confidence has ever come back at you in an argument.

Who it is for

Take it when trust feels off and you can't name which part — a promise that didn't hold, a story that didn't line up, a reaction you didn't expect to something you admitted. The Relationship Satisfaction Quiz is the wider reading, where trust is one part of how the relationship is doing; this one assumes you've already narrowed it to trust. It's the wrong tool if you know exactly what happened and are deciding what to do about it.

What your result looks like

Five results.

Deep Trust

Reliable, honest, steady under pressure, safe to be imperfect with. That's an active pattern, not just the absence of betrayal. The suggestion that comes with it is to retake occasionally, since trust erodes slowly enough to miss.

Strong Foundation, One Crack

Trust is mostly sound, and one of the four facets is lagging the rest. The suggestion that comes with it is to name which one out loud, rather than assuming overall trust will cover for it.

Solid Trust

A reasonable place to be, with no part of trust in real trouble. The risk it carries is different: nothing about it demands attention, so nobody asks what would make it better. Worth picking the weakest of the four from the breakdown anyway.

Guarded Trust

At least one real concern is in the picture, without anything dramatic having happened. Guarded often means you're already managing your own exposure without having named why — a promise broken, a moment of dishonesty, a time you were vulnerable and it wasn't handled well.

Trust Deficit

More than one real concern, or one serious enough on its own. Something concrete has happened, and rebuilding from here takes sustained changes in behavior rather than a single conversation. The result asks you to name the specific pattern, and to decide where the conversation about it belongs.

How it works

8 questions, about two minutes. Nothing to sign up for and nothing to pay: answer them and your result appears when you finish. A free account shows the detailed breakdown behind it. A membership keeps your results so you can retake the quiz later and see what moved.

Sending it to a partner

This is a Partner quiz, so it can go two ways. Answer it for yourself, free and without an account, and it stays yours alone. Or send it to your partner, which needs an active membership: they answer privately, and nothing reaches you unless they choose to share it back.

What happens to your answers

If you take this quiz without an account, your answers reach our servers only so it can be scored, and are then discarded. Nothing is stored, no profile is created, and we do not try to work out who you are. Your browser keeps an encrypted copy of the result for the rest of your visit, so creating a free account shows you the breakdown without answering again. Close the tab and that copy is gone.

Questions people ask

Why doesn't the Trust Quiz ask about cheating?

Because a question like "do you think they're being faithful" is leading. It tends to plant a suspicion rather than measure one you already had, so fidelity and exclusivity are left out on purpose.

Trust between us is fine until we argue. Is that a real thing?

It's one of the four facets — Trust Under Pressure — precisely because calm-weather trust and conflict-weather trust come apart. A relationship can be honest and reliable day to day and still have one person doubting the whole thing by the end of an argument. That difference gets a line of its own in the breakdown.

What if this feels like more than a trust problem?

The quiz asks directly about confidences being used against you, and that question can surface more than a trust gap. If what you're describing looks like manipulation or control, that's a matter for support beyond a quiz. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or thehotline.org.

The questions are all about my partner. What if I'm the one who broke trust?

Then answering it yourself won't tell you much — the eight questions ask about your experience of them. Sending it in the other direction is the version that would, and that starts with a short eligibility screening about your situation before any invitation goes out.